Feeling lost in your 20s

Like most people in their late 20s, I’m still trying to figure so much out (while feeling like I’m falling so far behind).

I’m trying to figure out who I am, what I want and where I am going. But I now realize that I don’t have to put on that facade of pretending I have it all together. Social media is a dangerous, people show you the best sides of themselves, a highlight reel, and it leads you to believe that your life should mirror that. This is simply untrue.

I have stopped comparing myself to others, and keep reminding myself just because someone else is doing that doesn’t mean I need to be as well.

Every time I open social media, I see someone else engaged, pregnant, buying a home, etc. I feel like I am so far “behind”. But then I stop and think about it — would I really want to have a child right now ? NO. Do I like that I’m single now? Yes. Do I want to be settled in one place? NO. So then why am I so concerned with being in the same place as these people I see on social media if this is not what is true to me.

Your needs are unique to yourself.

I have started leaning into those who are there for me during both the good and bad times. Friends who I know I can be 100% authentic and honest with. People who make difficult situations feel bearable and good times even more special.

Being in your late 20s is tough. We have a lot of feelings, lots of people are at completely different stages in their lives. But their truth is not yours. You need to do what is best for you and tune out the rest of the noise.